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[Kristin]

I was thinking about getting a simple tattoo in tribute of my niece that passed away at birth. It happened this past October and I'm still really undecided about it. I know it will be a constant reminder to me of that horrible day and also to my family so that is the huge downside of it. On the other hand, it could be a reminder of how easily something can be taken away from you and to not take anything for granted. I'm think I'm deciding against it more because of the reminder to my sister than anything, not that she could ever forget her. What do you guys think?

[hectikillusions]

wow! that is a delicate subject and yes you will be judged by the ones around you, some people will not understand the significance of a tattoo and what it means to you, its just the type of world we live in. IMHO Have you tried having a "sit-down" with your sister and explaining your reason for the tattoo and getting her input?  It might give you a better feeling with the reaction she gives you if she hears what your plans are. If i may, you say you are thinking of a "simple tattoo" what did you have in mind? best of luck!

[Kristin]

wow! that is a delicate subject and yes you will be judged by the ones around you, some people will not understand the significance of a tattoo and what it means to you, its just the type of world we live in. IMHO Have you tried having a "sit-down" with your sister and explaining your reason for the tattoo and getting her input?  It might give you a better feeling with the reaction she gives you if she hears what your plans are. If i may, you say you are thinking of a "simple tattoo" what did you have in mind?

I haven't said anything to my sister about it yet. I figured I would get a little input first then have a talk with her. She's not really a fan of ink to begin with so I'm not sure what her reaction would be. I was thinking something simple like her name or initials with the date and possibly a halo above it. I have a copy of her footprints too so I was thinking of having one on each side and then her name or initials and the date in between but I think that would be harder to deal with then just the halo. I don't know. I guess I need to think about it a little more and have a talk with my sister.

[Gizmo]

I hope I'm not being insensitive here but here's my 2 cents...

This tattoo wouldn't be a tribute to an actual person rather a reminder of a horrible event.  This child wasn't even around long enough to remember except the few pieces of memorabilia you are trying to hold on to, like footprints.

What happens if your sister gets pregnant next week and has a complication free pregnancy, resulting in a real living breathing niece?  If that child were to die a year later I could justify this type of tribute tattoo, as you would have memories of an actual person with a soul and personality, not just an event that left you hurt and sad.

[Kylee]

I don't think I would get it.

[Kristin]

I hope I'm not being insensitive here but here's my 2 cents...

This tattoo wouldn't be a tribute to an actual person rather a reminder of a horrible event.  This child wasn't even around long enough to remember except the few pieces of memorabilia you are trying to hold on to, like footprints.

What happens if your sister gets pregnant next week and has a complication free pregnancy, resulting in a real living breathing niece?  If that child were to die a year later I could justify this type of tribute tattoo, as you would have memories of an actual person with a soul and personality, not just an event that left you hurt and sad.

Gizmo,

Although I think you were being insensitive I will give you the fact that it would be more a reminder to the event than it would be a tribute. The more I think about it the more I agree. But to say that the child was not even around long enough to remember is wrong. To say that she was not a real living breathing niece or that she didn't have a soul is completely insensitive. You may have your beliefs but I also have mine and I believe that life begins at conception. You might want to realize that other people do have different beliefs before you go ranting on. Sorry if I'm being insensitive..

[Missy Blue]

I say do whatever you want.  It's no body eles's business.  If you want it, then get it.

[Benji]

My gut says it's a bad idea, a reminder of something horrible!  I'm interested to know what you ended up doing. xx

[Cantstopme]

I know it's been awhile but if you want the tattoo to remind you of how quickly life is taken maybe get something that will be positive and remind you of that. Not of the tragedy

[pfreak]

well i think if its wat u want and somthing u wont regret well then get it i really am interested to no wat u ended up doin.. If u did it.